Times are changing and today we consume all manner of contnet and information unfiltered. Many people have fallen into depression because of what they have seen and heard on social media and from content creators. All am trying to say is that as a generation, we have learned so many habits the wrong ways, and it's high time we start unlearning some of them. |

What Am Learning

| |----------------------------------------| | | I am currently learning to take my wandering life back to becoming a normal life, hence my name (normalyf). Its funny how I woke up one morning and realized I have not been living my actual life but instead I have been living according to the standard of what I see on social media and movies. For so many years I failed to live in the moment and enjoy the process of life. I compared my life to the ones I see on social media and because of that I always felt I was not trying enough and my best was not good enough. All my little achievements were meaningless to me because I constantly thought they were nothing compared to the happy life I see flaunting the internet. ![](https://images.ecency.com/DQmaPy7RptPfzPTW5BdZRtLvk64jrU67CuSTTzC7FhDSEdD/1773162263704.jpg)[pixabay](https://pixabay.com/photos/man-face-mask-new-normal-pandemic-7049598/) But thank God for growth and experience I got to understand that life is full of ups and downs. The people I see living happily on social media and flaunting all manner of achievements all have their unique stories, and it would be wrong to make that the standard of my life. Alot of people show only the happy side they want the world to see. But I have come to learn and understand that behind every successful story, they were days of tears, depression, confusion, doubts, and failures that were not posted for us to see. This has made me realize I wasn't lost after all, I was only experiencing the full package of life. Realizing this fact shaped my life moving forward because I now appreciate my achievements no matter how little and I relax to enjoy every moment of life whether peaceful or chaotic. This is what it means to live a normal life. I used to start my mornings the same way, roll over, grab my phone, and scroll. Within few minutes I would see someone's perfect workout, or a friend's perfect breakfast, or just a stranger's transformative morning routine. Before I even put my feet on the floor, I already felt behind, lol. I had let a highlight reel become my standard for living without even realizing it. It is true that social media didn't invent comparison, but it perfected it, compressing thousands of people's best moments into a feed that feels like a standard we should meet. |

What Am Unlearning

| |----------------------------------------| | | I am in the journey of finally learning to take my life back and for that reason am currently unlearning some habits and behaviors. I was treating my life as content to be curated and validated by others but now I just experience life and enjoy the moment because I might not get it back. I always wanted to take the perfect shot to share on my socials and get validations before I would feel okay. In those days, if I experience something remarkable but didn't take photos to post, I would feel it was all a waste of time, lol. ![](https://images.ecency.com/DQmPntfsHeLwdKPR2noFcRoYk7RHv13Aqjv3oRXbJ7FZ3Ly/1773162112346.jpg)[pixabay](https://pixabay.com/illustrations/live-concert-dance-club-disco-laser-388160/) That's not a normal life, as we were designed to think that way. Now, I am rebuilding trust in my own standards, even when they don't look impressive. Sometimes the unwitnessed moments turns out to be the most memorable to us. I am learning to become more at home in whoever I already am, not less ambitious, not abandoning goals but treating them as directions, not verdicts.