Life can be very uncertain some times, I know it right, life can so surprise you till you feel you are not the one being put down after all the grooves you had some time back, so what do you do in the midst of all these uncertainties? Let's just find out.

![human-5003531_1280.webp](https://images.hive.blog/DQmTeUqgopMeRk3QMSQKKYkMkK8mqnXUdLwCkCCMh1qzWSv/human-5003531_1280.webp) [Pixabay](https://pixabay.com/illustrations/human-wake-up-light-esoteric-shine-5003531/)

I always like using myself as examples because experiences teaches more than theories, there was a time I had a well paying job and then I was receiving so much salary that no one in my circle was hungry, that was how good it was, those days I will randomly send my friends money even without them asking me to do so, those years were as if I had so much friends than enemies.

Back in those days, I used to take my friends and siblings out for shopping and will spend even the little that will remain from my salary and still make sure they were all okay even some times when I had pressing need to solve with the money. I could remember everyday texts from my friends and siblings, those days when I will only go home with "thank you" and nothing more.

It happens that I was one of the staffs that was laid off from the job, I lost everything, infact It became worse that I will hardly eat once a day, then one of my friend had a job in the bank and I begged her to please help me with some money (not as if I was or I am entitled to her money) but she told me she never had money but the same month, she did ponzi and lost over $10,000 (ten thousand dollars), I mean this was the same person that told me she ddnt even have $5 to give me so I could buy food for myself.

Two of my siblings distanced themselves from me and I was left alone, there were times I do wish I should just commit suicide and end it all, but there was always this one friend who would always squeeze out the little he had from the gateman job he had then and helped me even when he had a family to take care of, he is one person I don't joke with till date.

I was down there in self-pity and was thinking an angel will come help me out of the situation or maybe miracle will just happen all of a sudden then I will be recalled in my former job but none of these happened and I was living off illusion. I wept for months, asked for help for days and I will get little to nothing.

2020 during the Covid-19 pandemic, It became so worse because I couldn't even go outside for the odd job I was doing anymore, I thought to myself "no, you just can't keep being this way, nobody is coming for your aid" I was so motivated when I called one of my siblings and he told me he isn't on anything, I went to my former boss who was doing poultry farming then and asked him for a loan, he was so happy to see me, I told him of the plans I had to open a stalk shop then, he was willing to help me out.

He gave me a huge amount of capital to start up my stalk shop and be remitting only 2% of the capital to him every month till I was able to cover up irrespective of how many years it took, I mean this was God sent, I set up my shop and took it really personal.

Three of my friends were laid off from their jobs, they were not able to work virtually, these were the once that never for once picked my calls apart from the very first day I told them that I was laid off, one came to meet me and asked if I could give her some foodstuffs on credit then when she is paid her due pay off she will pay me back, I didn't even know if I was to cry or laugh or just stay mute.

I called her by her name "Clara, when was the last time you picked my call?" She couldn't answer, I smiled and gave her some foodstuffs and asked her not to pay not to pay for it, I could sense the guilt from her face but then I didn't care, I wasn't built to be heartless like them.

Now, what if I didn't stand up and take the pains to go ask for help from someone I never thought will help me out? Like, what if I never went through that pains and got the motivation I needed to stand up for myself even when those I was always there for didn't pick my calls?

![watch-5268325_1280.jpg](https://images.hive.blog/DQmbA7stSwC3D4y56i82pzWdLZiX1wp2SxS7GRtNVKdgKdR/watch-5268325_1280.jpg) [Pixabay](https://pixabay.com/photos/watch-wake-up-time-good-morning-5268325/)

If you are in this kind of situation today, stand up and dust yourself, cry all you can but do not loose yourself, it will be the worst thing that can ever happen to you, you are a good person doesn't mean others should treat you right, infact being good to some people is like being a puppet that can be toyed on. Stand up for your own life and shun self-pity, forget putting your hopes on other people. Bank and bet on yourself, the start will align for your own good.

Stay consistent with yourself and do not try to impress everyone because just very few if not none will remember those good deeds, first of all work on yourself before thinking of setting up someone else, you deserve all the happiness in your life so do not let what makes you happy slip off your hands.

@joychi102 cares.